Think back on this: the deny or sacrifice self now always changed
to an express
self system and the express self system always changed to a deny
or sacrifice self system when they changed centrally.
We must differentiate between peripheral and central
change. Peripheral
change means change which occurs within a system, keeping within the
deny/sacrifice self or express self category. The
person might change in becoming
more defensive or might change in what they thought was a
proper
way to sacrifice the self but they would not change from believing that
it was healthy to deny/sacrifice the self to believing in an express self
form.
This could be an intensifying of the
original belief but not changing to
another system, merely modifying within the same system.
Central change means going to one of the other three
systems at this point
in my research.
(h)
The express self calculatingly/rationally for what self desires
without shame or
guilt was not like the express self but not at the expense of others terms of effective change force. The
express self for what self desires without shame
or guilt subjects responded only to self procured information or to self thought. The
express self but with concern for others
responded to information or thought regardless of the source.
The express self calculatingly/rationally for what self desires
without shame or
guilt simply wouldn’t listen to their peers. They wouldn’t pay any attention to authority. I actually had some of
these students come into my
office and say; “Doc, I think I’m going to have to leave this class because I'm just not going
to read what that other guy says about healthy personality. I’m not interested. I don’t care what he says.” I had
to work like heck to hang on
to them. I had to say to some of them: “All right, forget it.” I had in this express
self rationally an amazing number that I actually had to lift out of the class and say; “Now you just go out and do this yourself and you
forget any instructions
that I have given you. You
don’t have to do what any of these others
do.” I either did this or I would lose them. Sending them out of the class
and not having anything to do with them was a very typical thing.
Now – just put yourself in the position I was in at this time and
begin to think
for a moment about what therapy has to do with changing behavior. We begin to ask ourselves whose behavior are we
trying to change? What are the
effective change forces in changing this guys behavior? You can begin to
wonder
just how complicated is this business of changing
behavior.
So the express self calculatingly/rationally responded only
to self procured
information
while the express self but not at the expense of others was different. They
might change under the influence of a peer or under influence of an
authority.
Sometimes
they mentioned that something came up in class and this was a factor that
caused them to sit back and
reconsider. They simply
changed no matter where the information came from. There was one of this
closedness present in
them.
(i) The express self calculatingly/rationally for what self
desires without shame or
guilt group was not like the express self but not at the expense of others
type in terms of judged freedom to behave. The express self
calculatingly/rationally always expressed themselves like the tethers were on them, tying them down and
they had a desperate need to be free, but felt
very much that
they were tied down. Whereas you didn’t get this in the other express
self
category at all. The express self but not at the expense of others never argued
about the methodology that we were using in class or anything of that
sort, never felt that they were being bound by the rules that someone else
had set up. On the other hand they would say
something if it looks like we’ve made a mistake somewhere in moving in a
particular direction, but
they
didn’t fight or try
to break away from anything.
(j)
The express self calculatingly/rationally for self desire without shame
or guilt was not like the express self but not at the expense of others in terms of taking advantage of others.